Hey! I’m RbbrDutchRyder, or Ryder for short. I’ve been an active member of the fetish community for 5 years now. But is not where it all started. For that we have to go back another 7 years. I was only 15 years old and doing gymnastics. This was period that I noticed to like the lycra gymnastic outfits from myself and other guys. I liked how they looked and how they felt. The tight fitting outfits, so you could see the whole body, but just covered enough to keep the suspense. From there it evolved thanks to the internet. I found rubber. Even tighter, even more revealing, but also even more elusive.
At that moment I knew I had to discover this for myself. I started searching the internet for gear like this. What I found was expensive and in shops I never dare to go into in Amsterdam. At that point I viewed kinksters as bad, angree, big guys in leather and rubber. Way to scary for an insecure boy as I was. One day I found a seller on a online second-hand site. I had a nice chat and I could try the suit before buying it for a reasonable price. I got in the train and set of to Amsterdam. Nervous as hell I got to the guy and was getting to know him a bit. He put me at ease and gave me the confidence to try the rubber full suit. IT FELT AMAZING! Everything I had hoped for and more. The tight feeling rubbing to your body. Every touch intensified. It was a great first experience. If it wasn’t for the nice relaxed guy, I think it would have cost me much more time to get this first experience. Owning my own suit made it possible to experiment a bit. Get familiar with the feel. I decided to check out some of the kink-social media apps like recon and fetlife. Via this way my fetish connection grew a little. This was how I got to a kinkster-birthdayparty. It gave me the opportunity to get to know some of these people. My view of the big angry black fetish people made room for the knowledge that those angry looking guys, aren’t angry people at all. One of them even offered to literally take my at my hand to visit Antwerp Fetishpride – or Darklands. And so I did. I even ordered an new rubber suit now I knew I really liked it, and off we went.
Destination: Antwerp!
The journey to Antwerp was almost killing me… I was so scared. But my friend calmed me down and put me at ease. He told me what to be expecting and what to enjoy. When we arrived my fear had faded away and a pleasant tension had risen inside of me. Till this day I am for ever greatfull to this friend that he did this for me. It was the most wonderful event I had ever visited! The feeling of freedom, able to do whatever you want and without any pressure. And now I knew the people I had feared a little, are the most amazing, loving and caring people there are.
Until now I have been to Antwerp 4 times. Each time I grew as a person, as a kinkster. Meeting likeminded people opened another world. A warm and loving world. For everybody who likes kink and want to experience a fetish event, I’d recommend Antwerp Fetishpride – Darklands. As a next step I went to Folsom, Berlin. This was a total different experience than Antwerp. It was more sexual (not that I mind) and so it was a leap farther in my road. Through the years the different social media platforms created a way of connecting. This is how I got to know many of my now kinkfriends. First connecting on the socials, then the connecting at events. I like it, every time again. Social media grew me as my a kinkster as well. The compliments and connections do great thinks for an insecure person. And yes I still am. Always questioning how I look and how I come across. So even after all these years I’m still insecure about many things, but I hope my road shows you that although you might be insecure. Be open, curious, loving and free. You’ll have the best time of your life!
